Acceptable Patterns of Behaviour and Approaches to Discipline

Understanding Acceptable Patterns of Behaviour

Encouraging Positive Behaviour

Role modelling is a powerful strategy for instilling positive behaviour. When adults behave appropriately, children learn from them and mimic their behaviour.
Clear communication of expectations prevents misunderstandings. It’s critical for the child to know what behaviour is expected of them.
Consistency in expectations from all caregivers promotes an understanding of acceptable behaviour.
Positive reinforcement rewards good behaviour, making it more likely to be repeated. This could be verbal praise, a smile or a hug.
Setting boundaries and rules helps children understand what behaviour is acceptable and what isn’t.

Understanding the Causes of Unacceptable Behaviour

Unacceptable behaviour may stem from various reasons such as tiredness, hunger, frustration, seeking attention or illness.
It’s crucial to identify triggers and offer support to manage these behaviours instead of using disciplinary actions.

Approaches to Discipline

Guidance over Punishment

The aim of discipline should be to guide and teach, rather than to punish. Behaviour is more likely to change if children understand why it is unacceptable.
Emphasising the natural consequences of unacceptable behaviour teaches children the impact of their actions.

Setting Limits

Limits provide children with a sense of security, helping them to understand where boundaries lie.

Timeout Method

A timeout can be a brief break to allow a child to regain control over their emotions. It should be used as a last resort and should never be used as a punishment or threat.

Discipline Should Be Developmentally Appropriate

Age, understanding and maturity level are important factors to consider when disciplining a child. For example, a toddler might not understand why a behaviour is unacceptable, so discipline methods should be adjusted accordingly.

Consistency in Discipline

Consistency in discipline helps children to understand the outcomes of their behaviour and learn from it.

Avoiding Shaming and Humiliating

Discipline should never be used to shame or humiliate a child. This approach can be detrimental to a child’s self-esteem and confidence.

Always remember, the ultimate goal of discipline is to help children learn self-control and acceptable behaviour that will serve them well throughout their lives.